Friends With Benefits relationships, or FWB relationships in short, often come with their own set of challenges. From the unique nature of the relationship dynamic itself to the importance of setting ground rules, it can be difficult for a lot of people to make an FWB relationship work.
That’s where we come in. Don’t think you have what it takes to succeed in managing an FWB relationship? Think again. With these next few tips, you’ll become a certified FWB expert in no time (we think). Spoiler: there’s a lot more to these relationships than just the sex.
1. Know if an FWB relationship is even possible
The first (and most obvious) question one asks is whether or not it’s possible to shift a platonic friendship into something more sexual. And no, you don’t determine your readiness based on how horny you are for each other. You do so based on what’s called your “sociosexual orientation”, or how well you respond to casual sex.
Basically, if you can separate romantic interest and sex, then, by all means, fuck each other to your hearts’ content. But if either of you is known to develop feelings after a one-night stand, you may not want to go for an FWB relationship, no matter how much you want to do them. Trust me, it’ll only backfire.
2. Establish boundaries and ground rules
Any good FWB relationship will have boundaries and ground rules set beforehand. This is done to make sure that you two get to enjoy as much as you want, without overstepping the FWB status. It’s a precautionary measure that lets you separate romantic interest from the equation, and when things go south, end the relationship with no problems whatsoever.
3. Communicate clearly
Ground rules and boundaries aren’t enough to make an FWB relationship last. You need to be able to tell your partner what you feel at all times so that you won’t be sending the wrong signals. Horny as hell? Hit them up. Not in the mood for the day? Let them know. You don’t want your FWB relationship to end just because you weren’t being honest with each other.
4. Learn to not get too attached
Did you know that, contrary to popular belief, feeling attached to your FWB can be a good thing? Studies have shown that being emotionally invested is a common trait among successful FWB relationships.
Remember the boundaries that you’ve set with one another, though. If they’d rather not develop any sort of attachment, then you should avoid anything that could spark interest in one another – like cuddling after sex.